Green Child Magazine Fall 2013 | Page 7

from our publisher & editor “Parenting with empathy should not be something we have to hide from doctors or relatives to avoid reactions. Respecting children as whole people should be something we’re proud of. We say we want to give children a voice, but we whisper for their rights in secret clubs and groups.” ~ Heather Greenwood If you’re on the natural parenting path, you probably have a group of like minded friends – in real life or online – to ask questions, bounce ideas off of, commiserate with, and help keep you sane. Our communities on Facebook or Google+ are not exclusive for the sake of keeping anyone out. Rather, they’re designed to give a comfortable space for a mom to ask a question about handling a temper tantrum without spanking. She’s looking for support and suggestions without judgment… not “we all got spanked and we turned out fine.” When I saw Heather’s quote, the reality of these private groups struck me. What’s the cost of keeping our attachment parenting questions only to people who think they way we do? By willingly dropping out of the mainstream conversation, our voices aren’t heard by that new mom who reaches out for help on a public board. By choosing not to hang out at the mainstream moms group play date, we miss the chance to encourage that mom who feels like her only hope for getting a good night’s rest is letting her baby cry it out. One gentle parenting comment is all it can take to change the direction of a whole family. I know this is true, because it happened to me. After a rough night with our second baby, we told our doula we hoped he would be an “easier baby” than his brother had. She thoughtfully told us she thought our oldest was such a gracious and content child now because we’d been practicing attachment parenting without knowing there was a name for it. Another of these life-changing comments came from the incomparable Peggy O’Mara: “The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.” I had the remarkable privilege of speaking with Peggy, and I can’t wait for you to read about it on page 56. Her perspective gave me a renewed sense of hope and purpose in what we’re all doing to raise conscious families. Conscious parenting truly is a movement. And you are part of it. Our collective purpose is so worthwhile, we decided the groups are great… but we’re ready to shout it from the rooftops… and we want your voice heard loud and clear. -Amity 7