AN ELEMENTAL BLESSING CEREMONY FOR MOTHER AND DAUGHTER
Ganga
Four years ago I married a couple who came again to deepen their vows this June. It was their second marriage. The woman’s first husband died and left her with two teenage children. The daughter became 21 one this year and her mother wanted to surprise her with a ceremony to thank her for all the years from childhood until now.
I put a blessing ceremony together for them. When the daughter arrived on Skye for her ceremony she did not know what to expect at all. She was a very young looking 21 year old in trainers and hoody, complaining that there was no Macdonalds to be found.
All her mother told her was that there will be a surprise ceremony and that she will be asked for four Qualities that she would like to see developing over the next few years. I briefed her a bit over a cup of tea before we went into my meditation house that I had prepared for the ceremony.
When the mother read out the daughter’s life, it was as if she was giving her daughter the chance to look at herself anew. The daughter (who was quite shy to begin with) was stunned to hear about her life and to see that the mother was deeply appreciative and grateful to have her as her child.
It was deeply moving and the mother told me that they had reached a new depth of communication on their travel back home to Germany.
The reason why I wanted to share this is, that all three of us have been so deeply touched afterwards (being a mother of a 20 year old myself) that I will now offer this to my community.
Mother
Our motivationin creating a ceremony for our daughter was, that we wanted to give her an Abitur present (leaving school for university) that had more meaning than something material. We hoped that it would charge her with positive energy for this new step in her life. I was not sure if she would understand the depth of the gift and I was a bit anxious of how she would respond to it.
My intention and wish was to show her my emotions, my love and my perception of the world within the right frame of time and context (she turned 21) I hoped that this would show her something that she might not have seen before. To reflect her life, my life, our family life within the sacred context of a ceremony was meant to strengthen her energy for the path ahead.
When she received the present (four days Scotland with Mum) she was not overjoyed as she would miss a week partying in Spain with her friends. She reluctantly embarked on the journey but after two days in Scotland she began to feel more grounded, more visible.
The ceremony allowed me to show her my feelings of love, acknowledgement, respect, gentleness and pride and reflect to her, her own beauty as it was carried and supported within an energy of light and love. My daughter soaked up every word like a sponge. She was surprised and moved which fills me with happiness and gratitude.
I am so grateful for the happiness we shared. I experienced the importance of doing the right thing at the right time in the right context. I also found it important to hold this ceremony outside the normal day to day life and travelling from Hamburg to the Isle of Skye was already part of the ritual.
The ceremony left a visible impression on my daughter too. She has grown. Sie became more relaxed and more confident as a young woman. She speaks more openly with me and asks for my advice from woman to woman which makes me deeply happy. Even though part of the ceremony has been to let go and lengthen the umbilical cordJ our relationship has become stronger.
If you would like to see a copy of the Elemental Blessing Ceremony that Ganga created pleaea contact her at : [email protected]