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If you are considering therapy, read this first
Many people are having big ah-has and flashes of clarity after all we’ ve been going through. Others are feeling more lost and confused than ever. And, most are curious about exploring new ways of being. During the past few weeks, I’ ve received at least 10 calls from friends and clients asking for referrals for great therapists. Whenever these requests come in, I encourage my friends to slow down, step back and approach this process intentionally.
Take your time to get this right; you’ re going to be sharing your innermost thoughts and feelings with this person. I’ m a big fan of psychotherapy as one of many healing modalities. I wouldn’ t be where I am today without the great imago, somatic experience, emotionally-focused therapy, internal family systems and adult attachment therapy and coaching I received over the last three decades. But not all psychotherapists are equal.
Take the time to carefully vet and choose a therapist who can honor who you are, see your innate goodness and challenge you in a way that supports your highest growth. Above all, trust your gut.
Here are the questions I ask my friends as they begin looking at various options for supporting their mental and emotional health:
Does this person need to be on your insurance plan or can you pay out of pocket?( I highly recommend you stay open here. Many amazing folks are not on insurance plans.) On a tight budget? I have not tried it, but I have clients who have appreciated the affordable support they have received through BetterHelp. Also, make sure to research any Employee Assistance Programs your employer may offer;
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ask your company’ s human resources department about this. You can also reach out to your local United Way for additional resources around free or low-cost support. Why are you seeking a therapist and what do you hope to accomplish?
Another close followup to this is: do I need a therapist or a coach? This is a tough one as the lines are often blurred. It’ s best to ask the therapist( or coach) you’ re interviewing to describe how they view the differences. For most, this will provide the clarity you need to make a decision. You can learn more about coaching through the International Coaches Federation.
Is it important for you to see someone who honors and incorporates your religious or spiritual beliefs? Do you have favorite spiritual teachers who are also psychotherapists? Often they can make referrals.
Do you want to see someone who integrates somatic techniques(“ body-based” practices) such as experiencing mindfulness, breathwork, body sensing, yoga and talk therapy? I love somatic-based work and believe,“ the issues are in the tissues.” Therapists who utilize somatic-based practices typically have the highest rates of efficacy.
Take time to examine the therapist’ s background and training and areas of specialty and check out the highly popular book,“ The Body Keeps the Score” by Bessel van der Kolk.
Schedule a short call with the potential therapist before you set up an appointment. I like to ask: What is your philosophy or approach to therapy?
Who, or what influences your work( other teachers, models, methods, books, etc.)? And, what do you think the purpose of therapy is?
I think this is key as I believe therapy is not about“ fixing” someone, but helping them come into greater awareness and ultimately the highest expression of themselves.
When looking for referrals, ask friends you trust who have similar values for recommendations.
It’ s important to seek out licensed mental health professionals who have direct, specific experience in the area you want to focus on.
For example ADHD, addiction, parenting or couples counseling.
Stay open to telehealth, it can be highly effective.
Don’ t be afraid to schedule an initial session or two and then“ sit with” the experience for a while to reflect on whether you’ ve found a fit.
Trust your intuition— how did you feel when you left the appointment?
Be direct and share what works and doesn’ t work for you with your therapist. Ask them for their vision or plan for working together, such as duration, expectations and goals.
Lastly, be gentle with yourself and give yourself kudos for taking this courageous step. It’ s easier to keep doing what you’ re doing rather than exploring all parts of yourself.
I feel honored that so many physicians, coaches and mental health professionals come to my retreats and are part of our community.
There are many amazing counselors out there doing powerful work. Getting support can be one of the most transformative experiences of your life.
Dedicating time, energy and resources to your mental, emotional and spiritual health should be as important as taking in clean air and water.
If our outer world is a reflection of our inner world, doesn’ t it make sense to take time to invest in emotional self-care?