Saying NO is
OK!
As young as age 13 girls are having sex
with boys not because they necessarily
want to, but because they feel like their
peers are doing it and would be
considered inferior if they say no
I’m 18 years old and I consider myself a true
“All American Girl.” I am truly worried about a
growing trend in young teen girls today. As
young as age 13 girls are having sex with boys
not because they
necessarily want
to, but because they
feel like
their peers are doing
it and would be
considered inferior if
they say no. Being
in the age range of
13-15 and having
a boyfriend
today means a
girl has met a guy,
most likely at school and
they begin talking mostly via text.
The texts look a lot like this:
“What’s up?”
“How was your day?”
“I miss you”
“I love you”
Then there’s sexting... The guys says “Hey,
send me a pic” and the girl feels like she should
because they are dating, right? Not all girls this
age sext, but it does happen!
Many teen girls feel like because a guy is
texting her and just because they have been
asked to be his girlfriend over text, they are
now in a deep meaningful relationship.
Cementing the relationship on Facebook really
Keep gracious and say no
means they love each other. Now we all now
13-15 year olds don’t have a drivers license, so
in order to go anywhere besides school they
either have an older sibling, older friends or
parents who are willing to take you to the
movies, etc.
At the one month of dating mark, girls begin to
feel they are truly in a serious
relationship. Most girls couldn’t tell you
many details about the boy or his family,
but they feel they are in love. Boys will
be boys and due to hormones kicking in
they will always try to seize an
opportunity. I don’t blame the guys for
testing the waters as long as they are not
abusive and they can accept no. I feel
it’s the girls responsibility to stand up for
her morals and values and just say no. Girls are
agreeing to have sex because they feel
“everybody’s doing it” even though the
percentage may be smaller than they think, it
only takes one friend to brag and then the cycle
begins. Girls are often swayed to give in to sex
if they have already said no and the boyfriend
continues to put in the effort. This leaves the
girl feeling pressured because she doesn’t want
to lose her boyfriend and be talked about by
her peers.
This is where we are at: Girl has new boyfriend.