Mind * Beauty
Spirit
w/ Michelle Phillips
We’ve all said
something like this,
“When I lose weight, find
the right guy, or get a
better job”…then I’ll be
happy. For so many of
us there is a little voice
inside that makes us think
having what someone
else has, or what we
don’t have, will make our
lives better.
We look at the
people around us;
friends, colleagues, even
celebrities, and think that
if we could just have a
perfect partner like they
do, perfect kids, maybe
even perfect bodies, we
could finally be happy.
But what is “perfect,” and
are the people who have
it happy? Will we be if
we attain it? The answer
is more than likely no, so
what should we do?
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Comparing ourselves
to others is totally natural
and it is also normal
to want to be better
or improve ourselves.
But chasing perfection,
especially someone
else’s, definitely won’t
give you a fair chance at
feeling good about being
you. Not to mention that
perfection is unattainable
and striving for it will only
leave you disappointed,
so stop.
Long before I became
a Life Coach I was a
Celebrity Makeup Artist
and could always tell just
by looking at someone
what is going on in their
life. I could tell a wide
variety of things from their
skin, eyes, smile, the way
they stood, spoke, and
the way they took care of
themselves.
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It’s simple, if you don’t
feel good about yourself
and your life, it manifests
in your image and you
have to admit, you are
all fully aware of it when
you look in the mirror.
Unfortunately the growing
trend is people trying to
cover up what is going
on inside by getting work
done on the outside.
Our “quick-fix society is
turning to Botox, plastic
surgery and fad diets
rather than doing the
inner emotional work
that could create lasting
“beauty” in our lives. For
example, over the last
few years, I have been
working with a plastic
surgeon who sends me
clients that feel that once
they got “work” done they
would finally find the level
of perfect happiness they
were searching for.
Thankfully, by
coaching patients
towards a holistic
transformation instead
of yet another let down
from searching outside of
themselves, they found
the perfection they were
searching for…internally.
As a result, they lost
weight and began to look
better because they were
finding their bliss within.
Rather than dealing
with symptoms let’s
go a little deeper and
try to figure out what
is creating the feelings
of inadequacy that are
driving us. All of us want
to look good, feel good,
have a great life- I am
in total agreement with
looking good on the
outside, but to achieve
that I recommend a
different approach.
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Find Gratitude For What You Have
What if your life abruptly changed
tomorrow and you lost everything? How
badly would you want to have your life
back the way it is today? Start a gratitude
journal. Write down what you are grateful
for and take time to make note of the
beauty in your life each day.
Start Being Happy Today
If you are constantly thinking about
tomorrow you never have a chance to
enjoy today. Where can you create your
happy moments for now? Take time to
smell the roses!
Make Sure Your Life Is Your Own
Are your decisions and goals your own?
When we live the way we think we should
instead of the way we could we grow
resentful. What could you do and where in
life could you live more authentically?
Stop Comparing Yourself
The bottom line is that it is
okay to strive and grow and
to want more as long as you
enjoy the ride. Check in with
your goals to make sure they
are yours and remain grateful
every step of the way. When
you do, an authentic power and
beauty will be yours to radiate!
What if you were the trendsetter of your
own life? Would you feel less pressure?
Worry? Doubt? It’s okay to hold yourself
to a higher standard as long as it’s yours.
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