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* LAUREN S LOWDOWN book e FacAvoid typical updates and seek the quirky instead. When talking to your friends using Facebook, avoid the dull details that you’d never share face to face. Knowing your daily movements (interpret that however you like) and your boredom quotient isn’t fascinating to anyone and it’s definitely not cool. Instead, look for ways to say interesting, different and quirky things that will cause your friends to want to read more. For example, if you discover a friend likes the same band as you, say something like: “Hey I love (blah) too! Do you have their new album?” and then go on to talk about how you were listening to their track when you accidentally dropped a wedding cake on your uncle’s dog or something equally unusual and funny. Seek always to inject good humor into your Facebook interactions. * Change your status about once every two days. Clear it when you haven’t done anything interesting recently, rather than posting “Kate has just eaten a sandwich.” Keep your post vague, so that all the mystery of your regular life is not revealed immediately. Tweet well and tweet often. Selective followers will also glance at your most recent tweets to see if you’re worth following. You should have a minimum of one post per day and ideally two posts per day to maximize your account. Make sure you’re tweeting on a variety of subjects and not just your personal thoughts or what you’re doing at the moment. Talk about your hobbies and interests, share a piece of insightful advice or post a photo of something cool to switch it up. find buzzworthy stories for him to tweet. There are many and provocative. Share websites you can scour for intimate news about your life. prime Tweeting material. * Be interesting, transparent * Post interesting links. Find the man bites dog story. Search the web voraciously for a nugget you can spin into a good tweet. Guy Kawasaki, who has over 100,000 followers, goes as far as paying employees to 8 FEBRUARY 2014 * Post multimedia. Switching things up with pictures, videos and even sound clips here and there can make your posts more fun to follow. Twitter Follow your favorites. In general, if you are posting photos that users find valuable, they will quickly follow you and encourage others to do the same. * Following a few people with intent is more effective (not to mention far less obvious) than playing a numbers game. Following too many people will also make your feed overloaded and difficult to digest. Instagram PUPPY * LOVE A huge pet-peeve of mine has always been when people, usually adults, attempt to inform young people that their feelings are not “real.” Or they “Don’t know what love is.” Granted, the older you are the more experience you have, therefore you are more than likely wiser and view relationships from a different perspective than a 13-yearold will. However, I feel that sometimes parents should attempt to view things from their daughter’s point-of-view. break-up and she told me she understood how I felt. She said I would get through this and find someone way better than him, which was exactly what I needed to hear in that moment. until the day we find “the one.” When I look back on my seventh grade “love” I laugh, but I also have fond memories and I learned a lot of lessons. Has my Too often I hear parents perception of love changed tell their kids, “You don’t since then? Of course. I have even know what love is,” felt that I was in love another “You’re not old enough to time since then, and maybe understand,” “Act your age five years from now I will look and stop trying to be an back and think, “I thought adult.” I can honestly say THAT was love?!” Or maybe from a teenager’s perspective I won’t. All that matters is there is nothing more how you feel in the moment, frustrating than someone and the lessons you take I remember when I was telling you how to feel. If a from each interaction and 13-years-old I had my first 13-year-old girl feels that she relationship you have with “boyfriend” and I honestly is in love with her boyfriend, someone. thought that we were very then for her age and maturity, much in love with each she probably is. Ten years So the next time you other and that I was going from now she will look back hear a middle-school child to marry him one day. Of and say “Oh my gosh, I can’t bragging about how much course, that did not happen. believe I thought I loved him.” they love their boyfriend/ When he broke up with me, girlfriend, just smile and think my world was literally over. I am far from an expert back to when you were their I cried in my room for hours on the topic of “love”, but I age. When one experiences and told myself I would never truly believe that there is no