• Notice and comment when your child is socially successful : “ Aunt Sonia enjoyed hearing about the butterflies you saw .”
How teachers can encourage a shy child
Teachers may want to keep in mind that shy children often are nervous or anxious with new people or in new situations . They may be afraid that classmates will not like them or want them around . Pushing shy children to take part before they feel ready , labeling them as shy , teasing them , or making fun of them may make them more uncomfortable . Ignoring or overlooking shy children limits their participation and learning . There are ways that teachers can help :
• Express acceptance and appreciation to the child for who she is . Compared to other children , shy children are more apt to listen to the teacher and less apt to act in an aggressive way with classmates .
• Let the child know that you understand what it feels like to be uncomfortable around unfamiliar people : “ When I started school , I remember I felt the same way . Soon you ’ ll get used to things . I am here if you need me .”
• Let her watch what is going on around her until she decides which classmates to approach .
• Notice if a child seems lost or uncomfortable in your classroom , and step in to help .
• Pair the shy child with a friendly , more outgoing child for specific types of play or work .
• Use small groups and cooperative class activities that involve all children .
• Suggest ways that a shy child ’ s interests or abilities can be useful to a group or another child .
• Give a child a specific task to do with another child or group .
• Teach social skills , such as specific ways to approach others : “ Can I play with you ?” “ Do you like that book , too ?”
• Comment when a child is successful : “ It was helpful when you suggested that your group use the balance from the science table to decide which block weighed more .”
• Discuss your concerns with the parents of a child who continues to be unhappy or withdrawn .
• Consider consulting with a psychologist for more specific help when shyness seems to get in the way of learning and making friends . #
Courtesy of Illinois Early Learning Project .
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