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Generation Gap
do then? The risks are greater when you look for a spouse on
your own. Many marriages have failed in this way.
(P. 525)
A mahatma’s only son expressed to me his wish to get
married. I asked him what sort of girl he wanted to marry and he
said that he would do whatever I asked of him. He also added
that his own mother was very shrewd when it came to choosing a
wife for him, which meant that he had already accepted the idea
of his mother picking his marriage partner for him. This is exactly
how it should be.
(P.527)
Questioner : My daughter is very opposed to the idea of
an arranged marriage. She thinks that her life will be ruined and
says that she would rather become acquainted with the boy and
see him several times before consenting to marry him. What should
I do about her?
Dadashri : They fight anyway despite getting to know one
another prior to the marriage. The couples who accepted their
arranged marriage and did not become acquainted with each other
prior to their marriage, are doing very well, because they have
accepted what nature has offered them, while in the other case
they try to use their own intellect.
(P.528)
A daughter of a mahatma refused to marry a well-educated
boy her parents had painstakingly found for her and felt that he
was ideal. They both liked him very much and when she refused
to marry him, it upset them tremendously. In his frustration, the
father came to me and I told him that I would speak to his daughter.
I asked her why she did not like the boy, and whether it was
because of his size or his height. She said that it was because his
complexion was a little dark. I told her that if that was the only
problem, she should go ahead and consent to him and that I would
make him fair. She even confronted her father why he had come