Generation Gap
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Dadashri : It is fine. You have to stay in equanimity; without
raag or dwesh with them and you should always be on your guard
and not lose control of yourself. Those who want to be celibate
and attain liberation must have as little contact with the opposite
sex as possible. Do you agree?
Questioner : Yes.
Dadashri : Do you desire liberation now?
Questioner : Yes, I do.
Dadashri : So why are you mingling with boys? It is
acceptable for you to keep the company of girls. You can go out
with them and have a good time.
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Questioner : Why do parents become suspicious about
us even when we have a platonic relationship with our male friends?
Dadashri : You can never have such a relationship with a
boy. It is not possible. It is wrong to be friends with boys.
Questioner : What is wrong with that?
Dadashri : It would be like putting fire and fuel together.
Together they will ignite! Both look for an opportunity to take
advantage of the other. Each is like a hunter in search of prey.
Questioner : You have said that boys and girls should not
have friendships with each other.
Dadashri : Yes, absolutely not.
Questioner : People will not accept this, Dada.
Dadashri : That may be so, but I have seen situations where
such friendships have created terrible problems. The girls have
become pregnant and committed suicide, while the boys have