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Generation Gap
take extra care with your wallet? Likewise, when there is potential
danger, you must warn your children.
(P.468)
Questioner : What kind of qualities should we look for in
a spouse before entering into a marriage?
Dadashri : You do not need to look at them too critically.
When you meet your potential suitor and you feel no attraction
towards him or her, then you should not proceed further. It is not
necessary to look for any other qualities. It is the initial attraction
that is important.
Questioner : What sort of attraction?
Dadashri : From the first glance, when you see the person,
there is an inner attraction. You are drawn to that person, just as
you would when you see an object in a shop. You will not be able
to purchase that object unless you are attracted to it. Attraction is
based on previous accounts. In the absence of such an account,
no one can marry. There has to be an attraction.
(P.479)
Women are ridiculed when they are asked to parade
themselves in front of their potential suitors for approval. What a
terrible insult and indignity towards women!! Nowadays, the boys
are very critical when selecting their potential spouse. They will
comment on the woman’s height, her looks, her build etc. I once
heard a boy talking like this and I rebuked him for doing so. The
fool! What audacity! I told him that at one time, his mother too
was a bride to be. What kind of a man was he to insult women in
this way?
I ask these young men, whether they think that these young
women are cattle that they are inspecting them in this manner.
People scrutinize cattle in this way.
(P.480)
Do you know when these women will take their revenge