Generation Gap
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Everyone will lose his child at some point in time.
I too, had a boy and a girl who died in infancy. They were
our guests who came and left. They were not our property and
they did not belong to us. Will we not also have to leave, one
day? It is our duty to give happiness to those who are living and
dependent on us. Those who are gone are gone forever, so stop
crying for them. What people do instead is keep remembering
those who have gone and neglect the ones who are living and
present in front of them. This is how people fail to carry out their
duties. If you lose a lot of money, what will you do? Will you
torture yourself over it?
Questioner : No I would forget about it.
Dadashri : Yes, all suffering stems from ignorance. In reality
nobody is a father or a son. There is no point in worrying about
the loss of your children. It is only for your parents that you must
have such worries, because they were the ones who took care of
you and nurtured you. The mother took care of you for nine months
and the father supported you throughout your life.
(P.351)
Whenever you remember your child, just say a prayer to
Dada and tell Him that you are placing your child in His hands.
Ask for his salvation and your child will be cared for. Do not
allow yourself to shed any tears. Being a Jain, you should know
the prayers for the departed soul. It will do you no good to break
down emotionally; it will only bring suffering to your loved one
that has departed. You are wise and you are intelligent, so whenever
you think of your son, pray for his salvation. It does not matter
whether you pray to Krupaludev (a Gnani Purush) or Dada
Bhagwan, because although their physical bodies are different,
there is no difference between their souls. They may appear
different to the eye, but in the elemental form they are the same.