Generation Gap
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children, then it would have an effect on them. The father keeps
complaining that the child does not listen to him, when it is he who
does not know what it takes to be a father.
You should speak in such a way, that children become
interested in what you have to say. Only then would children listen
to you. If you find what I say is appealing, then you will act on it.
Questioner : Your words have such a strong impact on
our lives. That which could not be solved by our intellect and
efforts, is solved by your words.
Dadashri : These are words that touch the heart. Words
that touch the heart are inspirational, like motherly love. A certified
father is he who can touch his children’s hearts with his words.
Questioner : These children will not listen so easily and
accept our words.
Dadashri : Would they listen to harsh authoritative words
then? Such a tone in words does not help.
Questioner : They do listen, but only after a lot of explaining
is done.
Dadashri : That is all right. It is quite normal. The reason
why you have to explain to them is because you yourself do not
understand. An understanding person needs to be explained only
once. But do they understand when you do a lot of explaining?
Questioner : Yes.
Dadashri : That is the best way. You want to make them
understand in whatever way you can. When you use force or
authority, you are acting as though you are the only father in this
world.
(P.73)