10
Generation Gap
parents do not. They learn this through simple observation.(P.47)
Everyday the husband fights with his wife in front of the
children. As they observe this, they begin to think that their father
is at fault. Your son may be small but he has a keen sense of
justice. Girls on the other hand, will tend to side with their mothers
because their intellect does not seek justice. Boys however, will
judge their father because their intellect seeks justice. As the boy
grows up, his judgment against his father will strengthen and his
resolve to get even with him will also grow strong when he listens
to others. Later in his life he will take his revenge on the father for
abusing his mother.
(P.48)
Parents should not fight in front of their children. They
should set some standards for their conduct. If either parent
makes a mistake, they should forgive each other. The children
will witness this and be at peace. If parents want to fight, they
should wait until they are alone, then they can fight as long as
they want. When children witness their parents fighting they
develop a negative attitude towards one parent or the other. So
it is indeed the parents who are responsible for ruining their
children these days.
(P.49)
At the dinner table some fathers create a big fuss if there is
too much salt in the food or something is not to his liking. They
think that just because they are the heads of the household, they
have the right to flare up any time. The children are terrified by
such outbursts. They think that their father has gone mad, but they
dare not utter a single word. So they suppress their emotions, but
in their minds they form an opinion about their father.
(P.51)
Children are tired of witnessing such scenes between their
parents. Some even decide that they will not get married. When I
ask them why, they tell me they have seen what marriage is all
about when they witness their parents fighting and that they have