8 Generation Gap
A day will come when your son may want to start a business and you should help him . It would not be wise for you to get too involved in his business . He may even get a job , in which case he may not need your help . Then you should keep aside whatever money you had planned to give him . If he runs into any difficulties , you should give him some money . But , if you keep interfering with his life , it may aggravate him and force him to tell you to stay out of his business . Some fathers take this to mean that their son is not mature and that he does not know what he is saying . I tell the fathers they should consider themselves blessed for becoming free from this responsibility .
Questioner : What is the right thing to do ? Should we still take care of our children or should we come to satsang for our own spiritual growth ?
Dadashri : The children are already being taken care of , so what more can you do ? Your goal now should be your own salvation . These children are already being cared for . Are you the one responsible for making them grow ? Does the rosebush that you have planted also not grow in the night ? Similarly the children too grow by themselves . You think the roses are yours , but the rose is its own entity . It belongs to no one . People act according to their own selfish motives and insecurities . Right now you are taking credit for everything you do and that is your ego .
Questioner : If we do not water the rosebush , it will wither away .
Dadashri : It will not come to that for sure . In fact your child will demand your attention if you do not give it to him . He may even throw tantrums . ( P . 39 )
How is it possible to keep a balance between your duties