6
Generation Gap
husband carry their toddler. If he refuses, she will nag at him,
telling him he is also responsible for the child and that they both
need to look after him. She keeps nagging him and he has no
choice, so they end up carrying junior everywhere, all over the
town. This kind of excessive attention suffocates the growing child.
How can the child grow up to be normal?
(P.23)
A bank manager once said to me, “Dadaji, I have never
said a single word to my wife or my children, no matter what they
say or do wrong, I do not say anything.” He looked so self-assured,
thinking that perhaps I would applaud him for his nobility. But
instead I said, “Who on earth made you the manager of a bank.
You do not even know how to manage your own family! You are
the ultimate fool on this planet. You are useless!” He was shocked.
Did he expect a medal for this? Your child does something wrong,
you have to ask him, ‘why did you do this? From now on don’t
do things like this’ you have to scold him dramatically (in a make
believe fashion) and convincingly; otherwise he will think that
whatever he did was correct because his father condones it.
Because he never said anything, his household was in ruins. You
have to say everything, but dramatically, as if you are in a play on
the stage of this world. He should play his role to its fullest, but
without any attachment and abhorrence.
You should talk to your children every night and discuss
things with them. Converse with them and explain things to them
in an amicable manner. You need to pay attention to all the aspects
of their development. They already have a good personality, but
they need encouragement. You have to keep them in check and
caution them.
(P.24)
Teach your children good habits. Every morning after they
bathe, teach them to pray for world peace and salvation. If you
can do this, it would mean that you have succeeded in instilling