Geaux Health & Fitness Magazine June 2014 | Page 36

relationships / sex

Are Your Kids Killing
Your Sex Life
Are your children getting in the way of intimacy with your spouse? This is
a common complaint amongst young parents.
The freedom to be impulsively romantic or to go on dates with your
better half with little or no planning dissolves once kids enter the picture.
The love lives of parents tend to revolve around their kids’ extracurricular
activities, parent-teacher conferences or naptimes and feedings.
The newlywed stage of a relationship is often described as that time when
life seems to take off with your spouse and love is blossoming like flowers
in the spring. As time passes and you grow as a couple, you realize that
the hardest job that you will ever have in life is to maintain being in love
with your spouse.
Eventually the infatuation wears off, and you begin see that there is much
work required (so much more than you had not expected) to maintain
your relationship.
This is called Reality Phase I.
Just when you begin to think you have a handle on Reality Phase I, the
little stork passes by your home and drops a baby in a basinet with a cloth
diaper parachute on your doorstep, providing the relationship surprise of
your life. You’ve entered the beginning of Reality Phase II.
In this phase, the world completely changes forever. You no longer live
only for one another; instead, you live for that beautiful gift from heaven,
which requires tremendous work and sacrifice. It impacts your social and
dating life heavily. You begin scaling back from those romantic movies; the quiet and loving child that you have held all day choose to begin
screaming at the top of her lung, sending you running o ][