HEALTH & WELLNESS
DISCOVERING YOUR
EROTIC TEMPLATE
By LINDSAY WALDEN
Sex and Relationships Therapist
You are probably wondering what an erotic template is,
but I assure you it is nothing to fear. Basically, an erotic
template is the unique arousal response elicited when an
individual is exposed to an erotic stimuli.
The process of discovering your own erotic template
involves developing an awareness of what “turns you on.”
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The following steps can help you on your journey of
sexual self-discovery:
Start with Fantasies - Before trying to interact with a
partner, start by noticing your own wants, desires and
fantasies. Start keeping an erotic journal. This will help
you notice patterns, themes, etc.
Keep an Open Mind - As you begin delving into the
complexities of both your conscious and sub-conscious
mind, self-judgement will likely be close behind. This is
why we start with the fantasy realm first. Just because you
have a fantasy doesn’t mean you have to make it a reality.
Seek Support - You could set up a sexual consulting
appointment, seek individual or group therapy, confide
in a trusted friend, etc. It is important to be able to talk
about your journey.
I hope you will embark on a journey of sexual selfdiscovery and understanding your erotic template.
Keep your thoughts sexy!
For more information about Lindsay’s practice,
visit lindsay walden.com.