For many singles today , the season of singleness can be filled with many distractions , bad dates , lonely nights , day dreams ( of finally finding the one ), unfulfilled promises , an overall lack of focus and so much more . Consequently , many view this season of life with less optimism than other seasons ; thinking that life without a mate is somehow incomplete . May I suggest to you that maybe , just maybe , the real

issue has more to do with perception than anything else . Rest assure , life ' s ups and downs will find you whether you ' re single , married , engaged , in a relationship , it ' s complicated or flat out not interested ! And sure , having someone to build and enjoy life with is an incredibly awesome thing : but hear me when I say this , being alone has it ' s privileges !! In fact , my experience and exposure has

shown me that the people who are the happiest and most successful during their season of singleness , are the happiest and most successful in their marriages . Singleness is a time where you and I can become more self aware , dive deeper into the pursuit of our destiny , discover more about who God has created us to be AND what people and things best compliment that . While I truly believe that there are some things about you and I that will only be exposed within the confines of a relational context ; I also believe that this exposure is only valuable to those who have done their due diligence while alone and can view it through the lense of personal growth . " Your response is your responsibility ." Being single can either work for you or against you , depending on how you interact with it . In other words , how you respond to the disappointments and distractions particular to being single

can not only affect you in this season , but it can determine the duration of the season as well ! So I ask you , is being single really as glommy as we make it seem at times , or is that just how we ' ve chosen to see it ? The truth is family , that God desires to get just as much glory out of our lives while we ' re single as He does any other season of our lives . Being single is a season to celebrate ; a time to position ourselves to absorb all of the goodness of God specific to this season . Honestly , it ' s the work we allow Him to do in and through us during this season that will give you and I the capacity to love our future spouse as He loves us - deeply and sacrificially ! So , I challenge you to take an introspective look at your responses to life during this season of singleness . Then ask yourself , are my repsonses a reflection of an attitude of gloom or of one that glorifies God ?