Game Changers: The Conscious Culture Men With Vision 2020 Edition | Page 15

DATING & RELATIONSHIPS DATING A MAN WITH VISION Date men with Vision, Passion, and Purpose. Dig deeper, and figure out where he is going and where he will be taking you. Curated by Lydia Pierre A Man With Vision is a value- creating factory, self-sustaining man who makes all the value he needs from the inside out. He is also considered a High-Value Man. So what is a high value man? A high-value man is secure in who he is and doesn’t feel the need to compete. He’s happy for you and doesn’t compare his career to yours. He’s also not trying to be the boss of you, nor is he fighting against you for control in the relationship. He’s self-confident enough to be happy on his own and doesn’t define his own success by the relationship. He just enjoys being with you. He not only has money, he wants to provide for you. It’s not so much that a guy is “rich” that should matter to a woman. A man providing for his woman is not just about money. There are many ways in which a man can provide for his partner, emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually. High-value men are actually very attracted to independent women. He likes a partner who has similar traits to himself. Ideally, both partners should be independent before getting together, so that the relationship remains balanced and one partner doesn’t depend on the other to survive. Successful men are not looking for a “damsel in distress” they have to save. On the contrary, men who are insecure will actually look for women that seem helpless so that they’ll have a more controlling relationship. Or worse yet, they’ll try to make you helpless by creating situation where you are dependent on them. This is where financial abuse may come into play. That’s why it’s always best for you to be busy, find a career, and be happy in your independence before settling down. High-value men are well adjusted in life and in mental health. They know they’re one of the good ones and so they don’t play well when a partner is constantly complaining, or blaming them for something that’s not their fault, or rehashing old problems that are in the past. He’s the type of guy who will either walk away from an intense argument or he’ll just flat out tell you that you’re being unreasonable. He stands up for himself but only when you start the attack. This is the sign of a true “alpha” and yet sensible man. A man who has nothing to prove but doesn’t needlessly suffer. A high value man listens to you fully and he thinks before he speaks, always treating you with respect. He doesn’t make promises he can’t keep just to keep you temporarily happy. He doesn’t manipulate you with cheap sentiment. That’s the great thing about high- value guys. They spend more time legitimately trying to make the relationship work. Rather than taking you a roller coaster of positive and negative emotions, they just focus on the positive. They bring out the best in you. He’s a considerate guy, an honest man, and a romantic. And you’re what makes his already wonderful life even more exciting and precious. GAME CHANGERS MAGAZINE | 15