FUTURE TALENTED Spring Term 2019 - Issue 2 | Page 61

WELLBEING What sort of bullying did you face? I was called “fat” and many other names due to my weight and size. A teacher implied I was overweight in primary school in Year 3. I was told to “run for the doughnuts before they run out” by a PE teacher in Year 8 and the same teacher told me, during half time at a rugby match where I was playing for the school, that I “couldn’t run”. How did this change how you felt about your body? The key word here is uncomfortable. I felt so uncomfortable that losing weight for me was a matter of gaining the ability to feel comfortable again. This is my biggest learning from coming out of anorexia. No matter what weight you are, what you look like, how skilled you are, how much money you have – comfort comes from within. At what point did over-exercising become an obsession? I got into running and swimming when I moved house in Year 9. Within five months, I had lost almost three stone. Anorexia is like a shadow that you can’t escape. It consumes your entire life. At the start, I was so determined to prove everyone wrong that exercising felt great. But, as time went on, I cut out more and more food and added more exercise to my routine. As I moved into Year 11, the stress I had been putting on my body became clearer. I was struggling to walk to school. Finally, I went to see my GP. After some convincing, he referred me to the Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services where I sought professional help. I initially refused to be weighed or have my heart rate and blood pressure measured, because I was so scared. It wasn’t good news. My weight, heart rate and blood pressure were all seriously low and when I asked the nurse if I was going to die, she said: “We need to speak with your dad.” What steps did you take to get well? Anorexia makes you lose touch with reality and yourself. It got to the point where I refused to take vitamin tablets because I was scared of the amount of calories in them. I quickly realised that the determination, discipline and drive I had to cut out food and exercise intensely was a blessing in disguise. It was about flicking the switch in my head. Instead of deploying so 25 13 up to 25% of people in the UK are affected by eating disorders years old: the average age at which boys are admitted to hospital with an eating disorder 1.25 MILLION people in the UK have an eating disorder (according to charity Beat Eating disorders) much focus and energy on negative behaviours, I pledged to use the same determination to get myself out of anorexia. How can schools help young people with eating disorders? Physical health education and mental health education are of equal importance. We should be dedicating time and resources to empowering – not just teaching – the younger generation to build self-awareness and equip them with the necessary tools to develop themselves and to deal with challenges in life. This is a ‘must have’ on the curriculum. It’s an investment in the prosperity of the next generation. What advice would you give a young person with an eating disorder? Don’t be afraid to speak out and share your true thoughts with a trusted family member, friend or whoever you feel comfortable talking to. Expressing your thoughts and feelings will help you untangle everything and break down your challenges into smaller elements so you can attack them one by one. RESOURCES For advice on helping young people with eating disorders, visit: • Anorexia and Bulimia Care anorexiabulimiacare.org.uk • Beat Eating disorders beateatingdisorders.org.uk FUTURE TALENT // 61