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RE F L E CT IONS COLIN HOGAN ’13 n a e M t I s e o What D To S erve? Colin was a participant in the Prep’s first Trip to the Center for Working Families (formerly Working Boys Center) in Quito, Ecuador. Colin attended Williams College. After graduating in 2017 Colin joined Teach for America. He taught Algebra for the past two years at North Panola High School in Sardis, Mississippi. I work as a math teacher in a public high school in rural Mississippi. When I met my students, they did not trust me at all. Directions to the class were ‘misheard.’ School policies were twisted and broken. The kids were trying to push me away. It’s a kind of test that I’ve seen them run on other newbies, to see how hard a person will fight for them. And I have to admit that it’s a successful strategy. New teachers must confront and understand their motivations, or, like so many others, they will burn out. Though I’ve passed the initial test (I hope), I still think about my own motivations a lot. A frequent starting point in my reflections is a service trip to Ecuador in the summer Being in Ecuador was a catalyst for my personal identity, shaping how I saw my place in the world. 18 RAMVIEW of 2012. My younger eyes saw the trip as something to help defray the Prep’s service requirement. Thinking about it more back then, I knew it could be useful practice for Spanish classes. Some truly deep reflection illuminated the usefulness of pocketing a “transformative” experience before the impending college application season. And as our departure date came ever nearer, I repeatedly imagined the ways South America would fulfill my previously unknown desire to travel. It was a busy spring ruminating so many advantages and possibilities. Thankfully my mom found time to bake cookies for the bake sales, which I usually sold in the commons during free periods. And when my parents’ friends donated to the trip, I duly thanked them with scribbled notes on appropriate stationery. Finally school ended, and bags had to be packed. I found myself in the international terminal of the Miami airport when I wondered for the first time, what does it actually mean to serve somebody? A shrug, like a breeze below a falling leaf, was enough to carry the thought out of mind. I boarded the plane, Auntie Anne’s in hand. But this particular question would act more like a seed, as it eventually settled and over time grew large. Just recently, I fretted in my journal: “To this day I am affected by the complex emotions and hard lessons from that summer.” Dr. Lee recoils somewhere at the passive voice, but I mean that sentence earnestly. The selfishness I brought with me to Ecuador is easy to recast as myopic, or uninformed. But the misguided kid selling cookies forecasted with astonishing accuracy: I did have an amazing experience traveling to South America; I did light a fire in myself to speak and understand languages; and I did find the trip so “transformative” that I included it in the story I told about myself on applications and elsewhere. Since Ecuador I have wrestled with what it means to serve, that very same question I once shrugged away. And as I practice the idea of service in my life, the word has accrued more connotations, nuances, and sharp edges than it had when I read it on the banner of Fordham Prep, not so long ago. For example, there is always selfishness in service. Fundamentally, service implies inequality, so it often must grapple with paternalism and prejudice. And, depending on who serves whom, the distribution of power will either re-organize or entrench itself. A quote attributed to Lilla Watson challenges me to examine my own motivations to serve: curfew, high school kids from the Bronx and Quito found ourselves laughing and exhausted, immune to a flurry of Spanglish scolding. We felt connected. But those guys knew injustice before their teachers told them about it. I can’t help but wonder if they remember our two weeks fondly, or even at all? Are the parades of American teenagers “transformative” in their lives? In Mississippi, my students have shared their experiences and opinions regarding people who ship in to help them. They know how quickly people can pass through their lives and how little their intentions mean. Trust is not easily won, because after projects collapse no one stays to help sweep up the ashes. The cruel irony is not lost on them that while doors open and praise heaps for adults who serve in their Title 1 school, the same doors close and derisions grind against the students who graduate. In fact, it is because of those who came “to help” that it is all the harder to know or accept true service. Where I work is not like Fordham Prep, but it does make me immensely grateful for Fordham, the communities I found there, and its mission of service. As Fordham Prep celebrates 25 years of its Service Immersion program, I am proud that I can associate myself with its many accomplishments. The homes built in Appalachia, the support for institutions serving the poor around the world, and the meals served at P.O.T.S. in the Prep’s own shadow altogether demonstrates a commitment to transnational justice without neglecting the needs of the local community. I believe that the Service Immersion program is a robust answer for how to shape men at a time when masculinity itself is undergoing needed critique and reform. It is an impressive legacy for one school. Yet, for the young men who today walk below the word ‘Service’ on their school’s banner, it is not the school’s legacy or mission that truly concerns them. As every person does, each aches to know his own legacy, though it is not yet written. In their lives, all will write and re-write the words to carry on their own banners. Words like leader, visionary, partner. Having attended Fordham Prep, these men are more likely to be shapers of our world than many of their peers. I contend that to lead, to build, and to love effectively, these men must first serve. There is no leadership without service. Bryan Stevenson says, “You can’t understand most of the important things from a distance…. You have to get close.” The Service Immersion program, as I understand it, is practicing getting close. It is one beginning from which young men can find out for themselves, what does it means to serve. If you have come here to help me, you are wasting your time. But if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together. When the wheels left the Miami tarmac in 2012, I was going “to help.” I did not possess enough empathy to see the world outside of my own experience, so I could not have sought something like liberation for others. I did not know of a world that was restrictive or coercive, so I could not have known to challenge it for myself. I disagree, however, that my time was ill-spent. Being in Ecuador was a catalyst for my personal identity, shaping how I saw my place in the world. Part of my story and my privilege is that I could study, discuss, and observe inequality before I had to live with it. I think about the kids we played soccer with in Ecuador underneath the thick, black nights. The games went so late that people at the Center would shut off the lights over the dusty field to shoo us inside. Long after our supposed SUMMER 2019 19