1. No matter how perfect you believe you may be for the other
person, it is up to them whether they see it that way or not.
This helps a lot with heart break I believe. Sometimes people
are just not in the right frame of mind to be in a relationship and
this usually ends up wasting their partner’s time and efforts. It’s
not your fault and you have no way of changing or controlling
how they feel or perceive things. And if you do try (control
or change them), you’d be wasting more of your time which
could have been put towards finding someone more suitable.
Understand that things in life occur for a reason. Think of what
this relationship, this occurrence in your life, has taught you.
Think positively now because every experience allows you to
grow stronger, and usually once you’ve experienced something
negative, you rarely come across it again. Like I say “if it’s meant
to be, it will be”. Sometimes it is just the wrong time and place.
If it is meant to be, you both will find each other again and start
afresh.
2. Know what you want.
I would say this prevents wasting your time and other people’s
time. When I say ‘know what you want’ I mean, know what
you want from a relationship and know what you want in a
partner. Often people, who have a lot of drama in their life,
thrive off of it. This leads onto one of the other tips, but I’ll still
briefly mention it. Don’t give what you don’t want to get given
or in other words ‘give what you want to get given’. Also you
will know when you’ve met someone that is the right match. I
don’t want to reward the females or males out there that have
an ideal partner that is prince charming or a Victoria secret
model or so on, but at least they know what they want. Saves
you from getting into a messy relationship that isn’t fit for you.
Sure eventually (I hope) they will understand their expectations
are far too unreasonable and they will change. Like I said in the
last tip, it’s up to them whether or not they change and it often
comes down to the right time and place for a relationship to
work.
3. Be open minded.
Although it is good to know what you want, don’t be so uptight
and unreasonable. No one is perfect and that includes you, so
don’t expect to find someone that is. Generalise what possible
candidates need to have and go from there. Of course people
are attracted to certain type of people, but don’t be like “Oh I
want a guy that looks just like Brad Pitt (or for males Megan Fox
or Miranda Kerr)” because really, where are you going to find
that? Then you’ll start complaining that you’re alone and can’t
find that special someone –I wonder why. Allow yourself to try
new things –you’ll never know what you like unless you try. Being
open minded when in a relat