10 sighns that you and your
lover are drifting apart
by QGHeart
1.You start nagging
After your relationship passes the beginning stage, you might notice you are not getting what you need from your lover. This causes you to nag and to push until you feel satisfied. This behavior can cause you to feel anxious and angry, especially if your lover reacts by resenting you. Some naggers react by nagging even more, pushing harder and rationalizing their behavior. (“If only you would do what I ask, I wouldn’t nag.”) If your needs are still not met, this can damage the relationship: You aren’t getting your needs met, and your partner feels you demand too much. You and your partner can work to change this, but if the nagging/resenting pattern doesn’t change, you and your lover will drift apart.
2.You make promises you can’t keep
A person who promises to do what his or her lover asks but doesn’t follow through often feels inadequate and is frustrated by the relationship. If you feel nagged and make unrealistic promises that you can’t fulfill to temporarily appease your lover, you wind up feeling guilty and blamed. This might lead to your justifying not following through, accusing your lover of being too demanding. (“I don’t feel like doing anything for you because you nag me too much.”) The more your lover demands, the more you avoid him or her. This has now become a dysfunctional pattern. The two of you will drift apart unless you both learn to work together.