Fete Lifestyle Magazine November 2021 - Food Issue | Page 69

The conversation with yourself could go as follows:

“Hey Alyse (use your own name obviously) I’m feeling something.”

“What am I feeling?”

“Well, I’m feeling fear around talking to this client…”

From there, you can dig in and find out why you’re feeling those emotions. Ultimately, you’re able to bring more awareness to your emotions with a simple shift.

Another tool in your arsenal to bring simultaneous awareness and detachment from your emotions is to use the power of breath. When you notice emotions come up, but you’re not sure how to react to them, start with a few deep breaths. Deep breathing activates our vagus nerve. This nerve, to simplify the science, is what sends relaxation signals to activate the parasympathetic “rest and digest” nervous system. When we’re feeling stressed, we have the opposite, the sympathetic “fight or flight” nervous system alerted. Coming out of the knee-jerk stress response can give us some distance from the emotions and time to have that conversation with ourselves about what the emotion is, why it’s coming up, and what it means for you.

Of course, people spend their whole lives studying breathwork, so one simple breathing sequence you can try is called Box Breathing. Breathe in for a count of four seconds, hold for four, exhale for four, and hold for four. That’s it. Repeat that as many times as you like. Once you learn this, you will literally be less stressed which will help you make more grounded, conscious decisions. And, you’ll notice that breathing becomes a second-nature response to dealing with stress and emotions, which puts you in the right frame of mind to have those hard conversations with yourself.

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