am Tammi, VP and
Partner of Elite
Connections. I have
been a matchmaker, dating and relationship coach for my clients for the last 20 years. I have learned a lot and helped thousands of people find their soul mates. I have worked for a lot of single moms along the way and because I am a mom, I know how important our children are to us. We work as hard as we can to show them a good life, while balancing love, friendships and the difficulties in punishment and teaching them to be good solid grounded humans. This is all by example. I have tried to show my children how important it is to work hard and love what you do. Whatever it is they want to do they should love it, because then it isn’t work at all. We need to teach our children that nothing comes easy, and you must work for success and things you want in life. Your nice house and car and vacation. We all lead by example by treating people with respect and love and showing them how to navigate this crazy unpredictable world with positivity and love.
I love being able to help single parents meet the right person. I have had countless single parents come to me for matches. Some advice I give them is to be open to meeting someone and seeing if there is a connection versus being super specific and picky in their list of wants and needs.
Be open to someone with similar hobbies, likeminded in traveling, activities, and things in common.
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Be open to dating someone with kids. Similar in age is great, but be open to younger or older kids than your own as well.
The more openminded you are there is a better possibility of letting that new potential match into your life.
Don’t introduce your children too early on. Make sure you know this is the person you are seeing exclusively and seriously, and you know them inside and out. Then you can see if you can blend lives, and all get along. The last thing kids need is random people in and out of their lives more than necessary.
I always advise my client to be happy and content when going out and meeting new people. You should feel full and complete and not need anyone to save you. No one wants a project; you need to be whole and happy and having someone in your life would just be an extra fulfillment in your already full life. Be busy and keep yourself fulfilled with work, friends, family, hobbies but in turn make yourself available for the right person. If you like this new person, you need to include them in your life, your plans, and your future.
I am wishing everyone a wonderful month of May, especially all the moms. Sending health, happiness, and love.
"Don’t introduce your children too early on. Make sure you know this is the person you are seeing exclusively and seriously, and you know them inside and out. "