When my friends say this
it always manages to
upset me. There is so
much beauty in being
alone and spending time
with yourself and when
you’re as amazing as my
friends are, it’s hard to
imagine who wouldn’t
want that. Being alone
and focusing on yourself
is so liberating.
I admit it’s hard to see
posts on a nearly daily
basis of happy couples. It
can make you feel lonely,
but getting back with a
no good ex or dating
someone just for the sake
of being with someone is
probably not the start of
a healthy relationship.
Relationships are
supposed to allow you to
grow and your partner
should provide
unwavering support and
if you aren’t getting that,
maybe it’s time to
reevaluate why you are in
the relationship.
When I was in my last relationship, I was so concerned about him and what he thought that I didn’t realize that I was compromising my beliefs and feelings in order to appease him. When I got out of the relationship, I felt such a weight lifted off my shoulders. I instantly felt more like myself and I felt that it reignited passions that I had tempered prior. As corny as it sounds, I felt that I rediscovered myself and I wish more people would recognize the beauty in that. I am the happiest I have ever been and although my relationship felt healthy and happy at the time, it took getting out of it to realize it wasn’t. This is such a pivotal time in my life and I don’t ever want to look back and think that someone influenced my decisions or held me back from what I wanted to do. I’ll admit that it is scary to take that first step, especially if it is something that has been long term. I was scared that my identity would be wrapped up in him and by ending the relationship, part of me would be gone. I was worried that no one would ever understand me the same way or accept my quirks, but I realized that no one truly could if I didn’t accept them myself.
Being alone is not sad or pitiful, it’s scary and fun and freeing all at the same time. Take that time to rediscover your passions, spend time with loved ones, and focus on yourself and your personal journey. You will find love, it will come, but make sure to love yourself first.