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Publisher's Note
I’ve always been a very observant person, especially in new environments. As a matter of fact, I often enjoy just sitting back and people watching when everyone is outside enjoying the weather during the summertime in Chicago. I noticed that very rarely do people live in the moment anymore, because we’re always on our cell phones trying to capture the perfect selfie or video when we’re out and about. You can tell a lot about someone based on their interactions with yourself and other people. I refer to those actions as “observable behaviors”, which are extremely important to me when it comes to leadership.
I grew up playing sports where the head coach and assistant coaches are obviously the leaders. However, as an athlete, I also paid close attention to other players on my team, especially the older ones. The ones that stood out to me were not only the best players on the team, but they led by example. Their observable behaviors. When I entered Corporate America leadership looked a little different. The “leaders” that I saw didn’t look like me and often couldn’t relate to me either. Over time, I met other colleagues that became my mentors and helped guide me throughout my career. However, one thing that I discovered is that sometimes the number one person in charge is not necessarily the best person to lead. I once interacted with the CEO of my company that couldn’t add any value to an important conversation we were having about a business issue. When we looked to him for his advice and expertise, he looked like a deer in headlights. Not that we thought he would have all the answers but would at least provide some insight into the matter. At that moment I realized that he was simply a place holder for that job. Not a true leader.
The observable behaviors that I notice from great leaders are not all the same. Some leaders are vocal, some are silent. Some are analytical and some are quick to react. Some delegate effectively and some are more hands on. But most great leaders have vision, inspire, motivate, show empathy, and figure out a way to elevate others. Those great leaders can be mothers, fathers, teachers, coaches, athletes, corporate executives, or anyone else that inspires a community. Leadership comes in all colors, shapes, and sizes, but most importantly leadership starts with you.
I’m excited for you to read our cover story on former NFL player Isarel Idonije and the other inspiring articles from our FLM contributors.
Enjoy FLM February!
D.C.
OBSERVABLE BEHAVIORS
On the Cover: Israel Idonije
Photo Credit: James Gustin
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