Fete Lifestyle Magazine February 2022 - Empowerment Issue | Page 33

M

rs. Illinois American

2021 winner, Alisa

Bailey Stevens was

born in Cleveland, OH in 1969. Raised by her loving parents Douglas and Emma Bailey and her siblings Gary and Angie. She entered her first pageant at the age of 15. She competed in Miss Teen Ohio, unfortunately she lost to someone by the name of Halle Berry. Yes, that Halle Berry. She went on to graduate college with a nursing degree from Kent State in ‘93. Three years later she moved to Chicago.

She met Kevin in 2001 and six months after tying the knot, Alisa was diagnosed with lupus and was told that it may not be possible to conceive children. Her words to Kevin were “you didn't sign up for this.” In return he said, “you heard my vows, I signed up for this.”

It took her 4 years

to come to grips

with the

diagnosis - her

past references of

the disease were

wheelchair/bed

bound or had

died. Life as she

knew it was done

and she was

ready to give up.

A year after of her

diagnosis she

gave birth to a

healthy baby boy

Christian, but

during her

pregnancy she

was in and out of

doctors’ offices,

taking countless

medications,

constantly

thinking about

losing the baby; it

was a rough pregnancy to say the least. After coming home from the hospital, she came down with a horrible lupus flare-up, Kevin was deployed to Iraq, and they had just moved into a new home in the suburbs. She remembers trying to feed her newborn while having a 103-degree fever and also working a full-time job… her mental health was suffering and her mom moved in from Ohio to help.

From 2002 until 2009 she did what she knew how to do, she “kept it moving” but she felt she was spiraling and remembered what her father told her before he passed from cancer. “I used to ask God, Why Me? until one day I realized how selfish… Why Not Me? What is the life lesson about and what can I bring to other people?” It was time to take the gloom and doom out of her situation by addressing her mental health, take back control of her medications (with guidance of providers) and tackle her physical health with diet changes and exercise. In 2010 she was pregnant with Victoria and it was a much healthier pregnancy experience.