However the issue is not necessarily about hanging out, but where and how often you hang out. Honestly, men have to be smarter about this one. Guys should know that they cannot allow their friends to monopolize most of their time. Period. Once you become engaged or married, then the game has changed quite a bit. Your obligation is to wifey first and to yourboys second. On the contrary, women can’t try to keep their man from his boys, because that could cause resentment. Here are a few suggestions on how to maintain a good balance, build brownie points and avoid the newlywed tug-o-war.
1.) Communicate effectively. Sharing your likes and dislikes should come natural in any good relationship, but the key here is to understand each other’s social desires before tying the knot. You should know what you’re getting into, before making the biggest commitment of your lives
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2.) Set expectations for each other. Not in the sense that you’re telling the other person what they can or can’t do, but simply letting them know what will make you feel more comfortable as a partner. For example, if you’re out clubbing until 2 am in the morning, I’m sure that checking in with your significant other a few times throughout the night would make them feel a little better about you partying late night with your boys.
3.) Sacrifice. It’s okay to miss watching NFL countdown on ESPN sometimes. It is probably not life or death that you skip on getting a mani/pedi at the same exact time every Saturday morning with your girls. Taking a moment to do something with your partner that you would not normally do goes a long way. Relationships are about sacrifice and this one is huge. Because when you give up something that you love doing then you’re sending a strong message to your loved one about how much you care.