Fete Lifestyle Magazine December 2022 - Holiday Issue | Page 53

One lovely friend I met when we took a random ukulele class with our oldest sons, and I was steadily so pregnant with my second that I missed part 2 of the course (which she took, even as she, too, grew increasingly round with

her #2 as well). With

evenly matched

sets of children,

we spent many

days together

at the zoo

(nursing our

second

babies in

the very

unprivate

space of

the gorilla

house), on

a sleepover

at the Field

Museum,

exploring

parks and

markets with

strollers and

blankets and snacks

for our pack of people.

Now we can leave the kids behind and enjoy wonderful grown-up date nights with our spouses along for the ride.

My closest BFF, who lives in Brooklyn, whom I met more than 20 years ago, forging a friendship through AIM and raised eyebrows across the cubicle farm in the DotCom Boom days of a San Francisco startup. Our bond has lasted through various moves, divorces, romances, career changes, marriages, and kids. This friendship has been the touchstone of my life. We've been there for the best and worst of times, all made better by knowing the other person is nearby or always ready for a late-night call or text to check in.

A handsome friend from college who has allowed me to live vicariously through his many International adventures and who now shares his bespoke and glamorous life with an equally handsome and charming husband. He knew me when we were both awkward (not ugly!) ducklings living scrappy dorm-room lives and not the confident swans we have become. We are both grateful for landing in places where we are entirely ourselves, safe, and loved.

The handful of hilarious local moms who are my local support and my village, ready with a pickup or drop off of our kids or a dose of ibuprofen or something stronger, with unfailing love and support

through the stages of

school choices and

challenges. They are

ready help of all

sorts and the

occasional

urgent text

suggesting a

Sunday

afternoon

cocktail:

"Because if

I don't get

away from

my family,

who I love

dearly, I may

go insane."

These

modern

women balance

work lives and

marriage and all the

things while somehow

managing to stay in touch.They are my everyday people with whom so much that needs never to be said, but somehow, we're always talking.

As I seal the Christmas cards and envelopes addressed to each of these incredible people, I hope they know how much I love and treasure them. In a world where self-worth is often measured in followers of varying quality, I am thankful and blessed for those in my closest circle, small in number but more valuable than any gift I’ve ever received.