emember that
everyone is a bit
busier during
the holidays. We’re all overwhelmed with shopping, going to events, traveling, planning family get togethers, while working and keeping it all together.
What if you’re just getting to know someone new and the holidays are now here? Take a deep beath and don’t think too much into every little
thing. Thoughts like, “I haven’t heard from them” or “maybe they aren’t that interested”. Just because people are busier around the holidays doesn’t mean they aren’t interested in seeing you. There might be some pauses, but don’t give up. Be understanding that the holidays will pass and then they will have more time to commit to getting to know you better.
Don’t be demanding during this time of the year. Go with the flow and be easy going. Be understanding and considerate that everyone is busy. They have family, friends, and work that they are focusing their time and energy on. People get frustrated because others are not as open with their schedules, but it will be over before you know it so just be mindful. Be there and give them a pass and after the holidays if they don’t try a little harder, then you can rethink how in to you they really are.
Don’t be desperate to find someone. Don’t feel like you
need someone in your life just because it’s the holidays (or any time of year). If you’re lonely by all means date and try to meet someone new, but also keep yourself happy and content in your life.
Do invite them to your holiday event. If you feel secure enough, take the chance and invite them to a work or friend’s party. The worst thing that can happen is they say no.
Hold off on inviting them to family gatherings. It can be a little overwhelming for a new date to be intertwined with the family too soon. Wait to introduce them to the family until you know they are serious with you.
Keep yourself busy. Say yes to every invitation and instead of waiting for the phone to ring, try to get out in the community and keep yourself busy enjoying life. Plan things with your friends and family and keep your loved ones close, they will help pick you up if you’re feeling down.
Don’t reach out to your EX, just because you’re lonely. Remember they are your EX for a reason. Think back to why you didn’t want to be with them in the first place and don’t go backwards, just move forward.
Wishing you all a healthy, happy holiday season filled with love and laughter.
R
Photo Credit Scott Warman