Don’t be desperate to find someone. Have your own life, hobbies, friends, and activities you enjoy doing. No one wants to be with a clingy or desperate person that needs someone’s 100% undivided attention 24/7. Successful professionals appreciate someone that has their own life but can and will still make sure they find time for that special someone. Keep yourself busy and don’t drop your life for someone else. Keep your friends close and in time you can blend your life with your partner's life when that time comes.
Make yourself happy internally. No one can make you happy, you need to do that for yourself. If there is a void you need filled, then do your best to fill it. Not happy with your job? Then fix it. Not happy with your home? Do some upgrades or DIY projects. Wanting something to love? Look into adopting a rescue. Are you bored? Pick up a new hobby or just get together with friends you’ve lost touch with. Sometimes keeping yourself busy with people you enjoy being around can fulfill your internal happiness instead of looking to be with someone to fill that void for you. Don’t be down in the dumps about where you are in life, no one wants to be with a downer. If you’re not happy with your weight, then make a change. If you’re not happy with your life, make some minor to major changes. There’s nothing like the present.
When getting to know someone new, take it slow. Get to know each other and build a strong foundation and friendship is the first necessary step in a successful relationship. Really get to know each other first before getting too serious. All the rest will happen naturally, but a strong bond and friendship is the foundation of what you want in a long-term partnership.
Always remember to be yourself, don’t try to be someone that you think they want you to be. It will backfire. People want authenticity and genuine connections. Be who you are, and they will like you for the right reasons and if they don’t, then they weren’t meant for you in the first place.
No matter what goes on in your life, try to look and feel amazing. Confidence is very attractive. It pours out of you, so everyday help your confidence in every way possible. This very important self-confidence will attract people to you. Don’t give up, be positive, enjoy every day, make plans, and spend time with people that bring you up. Happy Holidays and may you all find love in your lives.
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