February 2018 Issue #4 Issue 4 Feb 2018 B4Y | Page 17

How does it work?
When having anal sex, two things are very important: taking it slowly and using
lots of lubricant. The anus, unlike the vagina, doesn’t have any natural lubrica-
tion. But if you want anal sex to be painless, you will need to make up for that
with lots of lube.
Also, your partner has to be very relaxed, so the muscles around the anus aren’t
tight. You should start by stroking the anus and after a while, you can slip in a
finger and see how your partner likes it. If all’s good, you can put the head of your
penis inside.
Move very, very slowly. Fast movements will hurt. Anal sex needs some time to
get used to, and the slower you move and the more time and lube you take, the
better your chances of enjoying it!
Is it dirty?
It is a good idea to ask your partner to visit the bathroom and wash the area
around the anus with soapy water before having anal sex. But enemas are not
necessary (actually, they can irritate the anus and the bowel).
The ‘tube’ inside your anus is the rectum. It’s a temporary store for stool that’s
ready to leave the body. If you’re healthy, and you don’t have diarrhoea, consti-
pation or intestinal diseases, once you’ve been for a poo, the rectum is left empty
and pretty much clean until the next load of waste comes along.
If you are too worried about it being dirty but still want anal sex, you could try
starting in the shower. Just remember that your lube should be silicone-based
then, because water-based lube will wash away in the shower.