www . newellstrength . com www . unlockingyourinnerstrength . com Judgment is also critical to the older brains . If I took you back thousands , hundreds of thousands or even millions of years , when humans traveled in packs and tribes , the kiss of death for you would have been judgment , negative of course , from the tribe . Why ?
Because if you were judged , you were moved to the outside of the pack , where the predators roam . And if you really were judged , you were kicked out of the group and your chance for survival plummeted ( this judgment is piece is the real reason that most people are so petrified of public speaking ).
Without going too deep into the brain , I want you to realize that just having this knowledge can be enough to course correct for happiness . Recognizing whom or what is causing the issue ( don ’ t worry about fixing it yet ) is usually enough to take a big step towards happiness .
Until we see the pattern , like I did back at the old So Cal beach , we will be in reaction mode , which remember a few paragraphs back , reaction usually means a lack of a state of happiness .
Ok , this is the BIG takeaway I want to get across . Your thoughts drive your emotional state , not the other way around .
Yet , we have been led to believe that we can ’ t control our thoughts , so we get emotional and we let those drive our thoughts . The problem with that is that the emotional centers of the brain the logical , human parts are like functional opposites .
When emotions are high , logic goes out the window . When we are overly analytical and in our ‘ engineers ’ brain , then emotions are diminished . When we are in a funk , we need to know that our thoughts are driving it but because of the emotional state we are in , the thoughts will be blown out of proportion , they wouldn ’ t make sense to our rational self if we were able to observe from the outside .
Ever wonder how things could be so bad for someone to commit suicide ? Well , now you know . They ’ ve been digging a hole of deep , dark emotions for some time before they reach that point .
The brain will always answer any question you ask of it . So , when in a funk , ask , ‘ What ’ s great about this problem ?’ You will come up with an answer that can move you forward .
Think clearly , take a breath and then you will realize that old Abe was right when he said , ‘ We are about as happy as we make our minds up to be .’