Family & Life Magazine Issue 9 | Page 19

(VCGH) under Section 322. With regard to legal procedures, the police can only arrest someone without a warrant for the latter. They are unable to arrest someone in the first instance. So, for the above woman’s husband to be arrested on the spot, grievous hurt had to be inflicted. That means the woman had to suffer permanent injuries, or as a result of the violence, be hospitalised for a minimum of 20 days. Since she only received a few bruises and required no serious medical attention, it was a case of VCH. The policemen had their hands tied and could only refer her to the civil defence force, where she can get a medical assessment to apply for a Personal Protection Order (PPO). Restricted by law not to interfere in domestic disputes, many police officers have found loopholes within the legal system to serve justice in areas the law overlooked. While they are not allowed to forcefully enter houses to stop disputes, many have adopted the tactic of luring the perpetuator to a common place, such as the corridor or street, based on anecdotal evidence and first-hand accounts from police officers. They can then arrest them on the basis of “Breach of Peace” – where one is causing disturbance to the public in general. Although the underlying message (being a public nuisance is of greater weightage than someone’s personal safety in the eyes of the law) is almost ludicrous, it remains the most effective way to arrest the perpetuator. Even then, it remains fully at the police’s initiative. Courts of Singapore, out of the 81% of female complainants, 71% earn less than S$1,500 a month. Dependent on their spouses for financial support in raising children, many choose to keep mum about the situation after considering the dependants they have. Children are not the only consideration victims have in putting an end to domestic violence. The government, too, objected to bills that focus on family violence; in 1995, the Singapore Parliament regrettably quashed a Family Violence Bill. Tellingly, former Member of Parliament Bernard Chen had said that “the very act of going to court will break up the family”. Having said that, portions of the proposed Bill were incorporated into the Women’s Charter in 1996. 1 Society tends to view the man as the more masculine figure of the family and is able to protect himself against assault. However, there are many areas of violence that men can be exposed to that have no legal implications, such as verbal/emotional violence, psychological violence and sexual violence. Sexual violence makes quite the interesting case study. Physical Violence The use of force on another person to instil fear in them and to control them. Examples of physical violence include pushing, pulling, slapping, pinching, punching, strangulation, throwing things at someone or hitting another person with an object (e.g. a book), kicking and stepping on a person. 2 Verbal/Emotional Violence The use of vulgar or insulting words, put downs or curses on another person to hurt them and cause them to feel low and unworthy. Let us now hypothetically assume that the woman mentioned above had been grievously injured and remained in the hospital for the minimal 20 days. Will she be able to formally charge her husband in court? Examples of verbal/emotional violence include rejecting or withdrawing affection or love from someone, using words or phrases like ‘stupid’, ‘prostitute’, ‘idiot’, ‘you should just die’ and so on 3 In the context of child abuse, it could also include “persistent hostility, ignoring, blaming, discriminating or blatant rejection of the child.” Psychological Violence The use of threats to instil fear in another person and to control them. Examples of psychological violence are the use of knife or weapons, the threat o