Family & Life Magazine Issue 3 | Page 38

OP-ED My 2 cents on... Being A Young Grasshopper In this exclusive series, our guest columnistsparents weigh in on the issues that are closest to their hearts. This month, actor and martial arts aficionado Robin Leong explains why he believes every child should take up martial arts. By Robin Leong Today’s children have so many options when it comes to leisure – iPads, iPhones, Xboxes, etc. They live in a society where things are easy, and easily accessible. Now, wasting time playing video games or surfing Facebook is a sort of exercise for them. As a result, a lot of these children are dependent on these virtual addictions. As a parent, what can you do? The answer is simple. Help them to find a hobby in their lives that they will enjoy and will allow them to express themselves while getting fully fit and mentally focused. What could this hobby be? Martial arts, of course! In the world of Chinese martial arts, respect is paramount, not just to learn but also to honour your parents, elders and teachers. All the different forms of martial arts are fantastic hobbies and wonderful sports. They inculcate self-defence techniques in the practitioner and also build one’s physical and mental discipline. In my opinion, the most important aspect of martial arts is its ability to help create mental strength and confidence in people, especially in children. The physical benefits are just the cherry on top of the cake! Mental strength helps children to be self-disciplined and focused, and introduces structure into their lives. It also builds their confidence and prepares them for life. I always tell my students that they must always develop good training habits (work ethic), as it doesn’t only help them to excel in kung fu but also assists them in getting better grades in school and building better relationships with family and friends. Most importantly, it teaches them one important quality. Respect. “Respect yourself and others will respect you.” Confucius To fully understand the importance of learning a martial art, one must learn to respect oneself and others, especially to elders. Nowadays, many children forget about 38 Family & Life • Nov 2013 authority. They feel that they don’t need to answer to anyone except themselves. This creates a lack of respect that frustrates parents. In the world of Chinese martial arts, respect is paramount, not just to learn but also to honour your parents, elders and teachers. Learning to practice diligently while showing respect to those who are teaching you equips you with the qualities needed to succeed in life. For example, there was one child who had anger management issues and constantly talked back to his parents and teachers. Initially, he didn’t even want to join the programme and had a haughty, snobbish attitude for the first two weeks. Something changed shortly thereafter though, and he actually began to participate in the exercises. I could tell he was directing his anger towards the punching bags. He used the classes as a form of release and slowly, he began to learn respect and most importantly, control. He also started channelling his anger in positive ways. Now, according to his Mum, he’s currently studying in the States and is doing very well. It is stories like this that motivate and inspire me to continue doing what I’m doing – helping children become not just martial artists but better people. What else does martial arts impart? Balance. Confidence. Chi. “It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.” Confucius Exercising is always wonderful for the body, but learning a martial arts takes exercise to a whole new level as it teaches you to discover your chi. Chi is the inner energy force that everyone has. You j W7B