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RELATIONSHIPS
appropriate interaction with single ladies
also protects them (single ladies) too,
from confusion and pain. Why? Because
single women have their unique desires
as women as well.
A married man can oftentimes become
the deep desire of a single lady because
somehow she has ‘committed’ herself to
him because of something he has made
her feel. However prudent married men
know how to interact with single ladies.
They know how to facilitate mutually
beneficial relationships that won’t end
in brokenness and pain. For example a
wise married man will always allow for
some distance between himself and any
single lady friend - There is a "too close
for comfort".
A good check-and-balance mechanism
for 'correct distance' is using your
wife's measurement lines. Let her help
you to determine what ‘the lines’ are.
Do you remember that rule we use
to use with multiple choice exams,
"When in doubt, choose 'C ". Well we
can use that again - 'C' in this case
means 'Check'! Choose to Check your
wife! Go Check what she thinks. For
the appropriate dos and don’ts, where
single ladies are concerned “C” your
wife. And if we are afraid to, it probably
means we've gone past the appropriate
line, and are in the 'inappropriate
place'. Yes, when our conscience isn't
strong enough to reel us in, we need
our wives to show us the truth.
Well-known Evangelist Billy Graham
was one of the most successful men in
ministry and possibly in marriage too. Not
because of a unique gift, I think, but from
the good use of common sense and good
discipline. It is said that he meticulously
planned how to stay in the 'appropriate
place' with women: He would not give
single ladies a ride in his car if he was
alone. He planned how to stay pure and
proper. And he kept to his position even if
it made others uncomfortable. And that's
what all of us men have to do.
I remember my wife saying to me,
"That lady has a plan - Watch out for her".
Of course I was not concerned at the time
about any 'scheme' of the lady. I figured
my wife was being too sensitive, etc.
But lo and behold, she was right. The lady
had had a plan to try to eventually seduce
me. In fact she had told another friend
that, that was her plan, and he eventually
told me!
How should married men interact
with single ladies? By having the right
perspective and being disciplined and
truthful; by being cognisant that we
must protect our wives, the single ladies
and ourselves and by being mindful of
1 Corinthians 10:12 “Wherefore let him
that thinketh he standeth take heed lest
he fall.”
Chris Brodber is an Author and Pastor.
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