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16 ...to understand the validity of their feelings and their responsibility for their actions. Our feelings come upon us from complex causes: our health, how much we slept, what we ate, what happened recently, what someone said to us, what expectations we are presented with, and so on. We don’t choose our feelings, nor can we control them. We can, however, choose our actions, which in part proceed from our feelings. We must model this concept in our own behavior as well as help students to practice, reflect upon, and understand it. “There’s no ‘should’ or ‘should not’ when it comes to having feelings. They’re part of who we are, and their origins are beyond our control. When we can believe that, we may find it easier to make constructive choices about what to do with those feelings.” —Fred Rogers