Extol Sports November 2017 | Page 44

TM st re ng t hing f a m ilie s f r o m w i t h i n POWERED BY FOUR BARREL FITNESS By Adam & Kristin Kleinert Let Them Be Coached Basketball season is a bustling time in the Kleinert household. It’s been like this for some years now and, though it’s a hectic time for our family, we honestly wouldn’t have it any other way. In fact, our oldest child’s first public outing (she’s now a freshman) was to attend a varsity basketball game at the ripe old age of five days. A typical week this time of year most often contains two to three games for our kids on a weeknight (plus practices), followed by one or two high school games on the weekend. This year is especially exciting as, for the first time, one of our own will be participating at the high school level. B You may have read in previous articles about falling into the concession stand trap. Yes, this is the time of year when we really have to keep our meal plans organized so that we don’t fall into old 42 EXTOL SPORTS / NOVEMBER 2017 habits. However, the importance of healthfully feeding your family during busy sports seasons isn’t our FamFitter topic this month. Rather, we want to focus on something we feel is just as important to a child’s health and wellbeing. (Please excuse us as I, Adam, take over the rest of this column – hence the use of “I” going forward – while Kristin watches closely and edits my missteps.) I love that our kids are involved in sports for numerous reasons. Probably more than any basket, home run, win or even loss, however, the one thing I am most excited for my kids to encounter is simply the experience of being coached. To be given a direct instruction and be accountable for carrying out that task. To be held accountable even outside of the athletic arena. To be obligated to follow an order whether they fully agree or not. Unfortunately, I believe the above rationale is no longer shared by too many these days. It seems athletes and parents from youth on up have much more control over coaches than at any time before. Players today conduct themselves as if they deserve instant gratification. If they don’t receive what they desire, it is far too common for the parent to immediately voice an opinion about the “injustice” that has surely occurred. (I hope my implied sarcasm is evident here.) Often, if all else fails and the athlete or family can’t seem to get exactly what they desire from a coach, the athlete just quits. I’ve mentioned before that I have been involved in youth and high school sports for many years and, sadly, I can’t count how many times I have seen this occur. Though the frequency rate in recent years has become staggering, I admit haven’t gotten used to it. It never fails to blow me away when the excuse I hear time and time again is: “I just don’t get along with the coach.”