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16 Benjamin Lampkin looked like a little mixed boy. He just looked like himself. Like me. Maybe there is no tangible connection to a Native American ancestor; maybe his African American roots will remain hidden behind that ambiguous shading. That fear was back, the DNA results almost a confirmation that any links my son had with those black names and faces would fade away, become just a collection of photographs he’d never look at and stories of people he’d never meet. It’s on me, then. My wife will always be an important factor in helping my son embrace all aspects of his heritage, but I feel a sense of responsibility to be the catalyst for his lifelong immersion in the wide cultural identity that comes with this whole mixed thing. Let him know those numbers and those percentages mean something, but they don’t mean everything. He’ll always have a beautifully-tangled family history, myriad intertwined paths forged by slaves and immigrants and doctors and laborers and teachers that became this little boy. But it will be up to him to take that history and build his own self, an identity unencumbered by the weight and expectations of DNA and ethnicity and genetics. And I can’t wait to see what that looks like. BRIDGING THE GAP. Almost Complete Before Paving | Seal Coating | Striping | Site Work | Concrete | Domestic Water | Sanitary/Storm CHECK OUT OUR PORTFOLIO OF WORK AT WWW.APC-CONSTRUCT.COM