How can I support my loved one ’ s exercise ?
Many want to encourage their loved one to exercise , without feeling like they ’ re nagging . This may be especially tough if your loved one has trouble getting into or continuing exercise . Consider these tips :
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+ Identify the hold-up . Figure out what ’ s getting in the way . Is it mood changes , fatigue , difficulty moving or something else ? When you name the problems , you can brainstorm solutions together . But go about it gently . Before jumping to : You need to exercise more !, share your observations : I ’ ve noticed you aren ’ t going to boxing class as much . Has something changed ? Starting from a place of curiosity and care will , hopefully , open an honest discussion .
+ Check in with yourself . Ask yourself why you ’ re adamant about exercise : Because the doctor said so ? You see Parkinson ’ s changing ? You worry what might happen without exercise ? You ’ ve seen the benefits firsthand ? Examining your motivation can help guide your words and actions for the best effect .
+ Bring in the experts . Physical or occupational therapy can help a person get into , or back into , exercise . Weekly visits with “ homework ” provide structure . And they position the therapist as the exercise director , both in and out of sessions . Your therapist ( not me !) said you have to exercise twice a week if you want to help your balance . Join visits too , where possible , so you can reinforce tips .
+ Set a shared goal . Think about something you both want to achieve and work toward it together . You might take a yoga class and then have a dinner date once a week ; each train for a 5K walk , keeping the other posted on progress ; or ride bikes in the park before making brunch on the weekend .
+ Be a good role model . Keep up your own exercise routine and invite your loved one to join . Your movement can motivate . And it helps you care for yourself , which is critical when caring for someone else .
+ Learn from others . Many families and care partners face similar challenges . Connecting with others gives a chance to share experiences , learnings and tips . ( Check out MJFF ’ s online Parkinson ’ s Buddy Network . See page 64 .) One spouse , for example , took the title of “ Chief Optimism Officer ” on his wife ’ s Parkinson ’ s care team . Maybe you ’ re the “ Encouragement Director ” or something like that . This signals good intentions and brings a little lightness . Nagging isn ’ t in my title , but encouraging is ! How can I encourage you to exercise ?