1 . Everyone is Afraid of Something Others may not fear the same things you fear , but everyone fears something , understanding this can help you not to feel isolated in your fear . You ’ re not alone , and the fact that you are fearful in some areas of your life doesn ’ t make you a weak person . Some people fear death , others water , or snakes and for others , it may be a scarf or a polar neck . These fears may seem irrational , but some fears have come from past lives , it is entirely possible that you drowned or were strangled in a past life , and this fear is still rooted in your subconscious . You may want to look at booking a past life regression session to establish the root of the fear . Try this :
Find someone to talk to about your fears – you may find that someone has faced the same fears as you and has found a way through them that can help you conquer your fears .
B . You Don ’ t Have to Overcome your Fears All at Once I sat down and listed what my fears were and then choose to work on each one until I know longer held any fear . You do not have to overcome every fear immediately ; you can slowly work through each one . The first fear I worked on was the fear of heights . I was scared to even to be on a ladder never mind the edge of a mountain , or a tall building . The first thing I did was I went and learnt how to glide ; I started this in a fixed-wing plane and soon discovered I loved flying . Then , I would regularly go and sit on the side of a mountain and edge myself slowly towards the precipice and dangle my feet over the ledge . In the beginning , it felt like my heart wanted to jump out of my chest and the little voice in my head was freaking out , screaming “ get away from the edge you are going to fall .” I would sit on the mountain and gently say to myself “ You are safe and protected , there is nothing to fear .” The more I did this , the less scared I became . Next , I took myself to stand on a wobbling bridge over a ravine . The earth looked like it was miles below , but I forced myself to stand there , breathe and affirm that I was safe . Next , I moved onto paragliding . I was terrified , but once we were soaring in the air with the birds ,
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I realized for year ’ s I have missed out on the peace and beauty for this sport , purely because I was too scared . I also went for a past life regression and learned that , I was thrown off the Eiffel Tower in a past life ! Remembering this traumatic past life helped me to realize that my fear had been irrational ! Yes , you could kill yourself doing some of these adrenalin inducing sports , but now when I stand near the edge of a roof , tall building or mountain . I no longer have the fear that someone will throw me off the edge .
The ability to overcome my fear of heights brought me such joy and a feeling of accomplishment , that I now challenge myself daily to do something that scares me !
Try this : write down something you are afraid of , some fear you want to overcome and make a list of three small steps you think you CAN take to begin facing up to your fear . Choose one and do it tomorrow . Start small - every baby step is a step towards FREEDOM from FEAR .
3 . Approach your Fears as Opportunities for Growth You don ’ t really want to be afraid , do you ? If you think about what your life might be like if you did not have those fears - whatever that maybe – you ’ ll know that your life would be better . If you look beyond the fear , to the benefits of conquering the fear , you may see a world that might just be worth taking some risks to live in ! I had always had a terror of public speaking - I would stand in front of people , and my knees would start shaking , I would stutter , and then I would speak too quickly ! I hated talking to groups of people and would just want it to end . I knew , however that I had wonderful knowledge and experiences that I wanted to share with others ! I started doing small workshops of 2 or 3 people at first , then when I was comfortable I increased the number to 10 people and after that , I talked to 40 people . I was starting to feel like I had overcome the fear , so I set myself the ultimate test . I agreed to speak at a ladies day to 150 people .