1. Everyone is Afraid of Something Others may not fear the same things you fear, but everyone fears something, understanding this can help you not to feel isolated in your fear. You’ re not alone, and the fact that you are fearful in some areas of your life doesn’ t make you a weak person. Some people fear death, others water, or snakes and for others, it may be a scarf or a polar neck. These fears may seem irrational, but some fears have come from past lives, it is entirely possible that you drowned or were strangled in a past life, and this fear is still rooted in your subconscious. You may want to look at booking a past life regression session to establish the root of the fear. Try this:
Find someone to talk to about your fears – you may find that someone has faced the same fears as you and has found a way through them that can help you conquer your fears.
B. You Don’ t Have to Overcome your Fears All at Once I sat down and listed what my fears were and then choose to work on each one until I know longer held any fear. You do not have to overcome every fear immediately; you can slowly work through each one. The first fear I worked on was the fear of heights. I was scared to even to be on a ladder never mind the edge of a mountain, or a tall building. The first thing I did was I went and learnt how to glide; I started this in a fixed-wing plane and soon discovered I loved flying. Then, I would regularly go and sit on the side of a mountain and edge myself slowly towards the precipice and dangle my feet over the ledge. In the beginning, it felt like my heart wanted to jump out of my chest and the little voice in my head was freaking out, screaming“ get away from the edge you are going to fall.” I would sit on the mountain and gently say to myself“ You are safe and protected, there is nothing to fear.” The more I did this, the less scared I became. Next, I took myself to stand on a wobbling bridge over a ravine. The earth looked like it was miles below, but I forced myself to stand there, breathe and affirm that I was safe. Next, I moved onto paragliding. I was terrified, but once we were soaring in the air with the birds,
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I realized for year’ s I have missed out on the peace and beauty for this sport, purely because I was too scared. I also went for a past life regression and learned that, I was thrown off the Eiffel Tower in a past life! Remembering this traumatic past life helped me to realize that my fear had been irrational! Yes, you could kill yourself doing some of these adrenalin inducing sports, but now when I stand near the edge of a roof, tall building or mountain. I no longer have the fear that someone will throw me off the edge.
The ability to overcome my fear of heights brought me such joy and a feeling of accomplishment, that I now challenge myself daily to do something that scares me!
Try this: write down something you are afraid of, some fear you want to overcome and make a list of three small steps you think you CAN take to begin facing up to your fear. Choose one and do it tomorrow. Start small- every baby step is a step towards FREEDOM from FEAR.
3. Approach your Fears as Opportunities for Growth You don’ t really want to be afraid, do you? If you think about what your life might be like if you did not have those fears- whatever that maybe – you’ ll know that your life would be better. If you look beyond the fear, to the benefits of conquering the fear, you may see a world that might just be worth taking some risks to live in! I had always had a terror of public speaking- I would stand in front of people, and my knees would start shaking, I would stutter, and then I would speak too quickly! I hated talking to groups of people and would just want it to end. I knew, however that I had wonderful knowledge and experiences that I wanted to share with others! I started doing small workshops of 2 or 3 people at first, then when I was comfortable I increased the number to 10 people and after that, I talked to 40 people. I was starting to feel like I had overcome the fear, so I set myself the ultimate test. I agreed to speak at a ladies day to 150 people.