ME: And my husband he always inspires me as well. He’s my biggest fan and he inspires me to be a good woman and he just supports me. Chris has done
alot. When you think about this guy we were married for was a nurse for 21 years,he goes to the academy then he’s a detective then he’s a lieutenant now
he’s a deputy chief of Police. He’s mentor in the community. That’s kind of inspiring to watch someone clime up the ladder like that and he’s a wonderful
husband. I’m very lucky. I’m Blessed.
LT: Chris is a very cool guy that I had the pleasure of meeting.
So is there anything in your life you would want to change or do over?
ME: (Pause) That is a very emotional question for me. Obviously I would not want my child to stroke but this
beautiful love connection and this deep soul connection and journey is like a dream that has changed our lives.
I just learned this is my destiny and I trust God and he know’s what he’s doing . I have faith and him and I trust
him completely.
That question makes me emotional and takes me back to that day. I remember being told he stroked and
thinking Oh no, it was like someone ripped my heart out. Now my heart is complete. Here’s this little bot with
half of a heart that loves like 1000 hearts put together. NO one can give what this child has given me what this
child has given to me,to his father and everyone around us. I just trust in God and he know what to do to
complete us and if that was part of the journey than it was.
LT: What are you most thankful for?
ME: I am a very thankful person. I appreciate everyone in my life.
I thank God several times a day for everyone that is in my life. They were put there for a reason to learn
something. I try to learn from everyone and everything around me. I must thank people a 1000 times a day. I
don’t think I’ve ever taking anything in my life for granted.
LT: That’s what I teach my children to give the upmost respect and be thankful for everything because there is
a child that is there age that is not blessed like they are. With food, shelter....Sometimes when you see videos or
photos of kids that are going thru it and I would probably do some unthinkable things to do whatever it takes...
ME: I think you become more thankful when things are take away from you. I almost lost my son several times,
that will put you on your knees. When I left the corporate world and being a professional athlete I literally put
everything on my lawn and sold it. I just did what it takes. People take for granted like you said the food, the
heat. So when those things are taken from you and you work and you get it back you are grateful and have a
much more appreciation for it.
LT: Is there anything you’d like to change in your community?
ME: I live in East Greenwich, NJ now. I have lived here for 21 years now since I married my husband. Well, I
have to be watch that question because I am married to the Deputy chief in our town. I’d love to see people to
love each other and support each other. And my biggest thing is to be e fair. I miss the old days when people did
the right thing not because it’s the “right”thing to do but because it’s “the thing” to do . I just want people to be
fair.
We all need to start talking to each other again. We need to support each other and see more inspirational films
about each other. Get our nose out the phone and talk to each other and stop just judging each other.
LT: What would you like to see the Everyday feature in the future?
ME: Positive inspirational stories. Women need to support each other. I hate the entitlement ,catty self absorbed
and negative attitudes were getting focused on. I think we need to see how strong we are and support each other.
I think if we see how strong we can be and united we can be are no matter how diverse we are . if we someone
can just help someone read something that inspires them. The thing that makes me sad is people are quitting. I
don’t want anyone too quit. If we can just help some to see “Well she made it so can I” then that is what I’d like. It just makes me sad when people quit. Just
don’t want people to quit....For me it’s not religion but having a relationship with God. When your done on your knees and he’s all you got and all the hurt
you have you better start believing and I started believing and it worked. Having faith does work. There
was 6 years I took Joshua to 18 therapy appointments a week. Then once I got him in school he still had
6 appointments outside of school, 6 in school , schoolwork and so one so this is a hard working kid with
hardworking parents. But we have this great belief in God he will get us through this. If there is one thing a girl
gets out of this is get “Courage”
“Just get
courage.”
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