by Lucki Zuzu
Did the E.L. James book series and movie 50 Shades of Grey et al spark your interests about handcuffs and blindfolds in the bedroom? This writer has an on going investigation of the BSDM lifestyle and discovered some myths and facts worth sharing. BDSM stands for bondage, domination, submission and masochism. HMMMM my mama never mention any of that during our chats about sex.
Myth #1: Fifty Shades of Grey was a great depiction of the BDSM lifestyle!
Not true, says SLer and long time member of the BDSM community. Participation in the lifestyle is purely voluntary and certainly not pressured. "A sub needs to feel it in her heart" " the true BDSM community is all about consensual play and truly embracing the lifestyle"
Myth #2: You’re Either Vanilla or Kinky in Bed
Totally not true!!! Finding your own level of involvement is important! There are plenty of people in the BDSM community only interested in being tied up during sex or dressing in S&M clothing and none of the other sexual practices. Or maybe you’re turned on by the idea of getting spanked, and your guy looks really hot in leather. Your desires may lay somewhere on the BDSM scale, and that’s perfectly fine—it’s not an all-or-nothing thing. Finding a balance of your own morality with your own sexuality will yield the perfect combination for you.
Myth #3: BDSM is a Fetish
Not exactly. BDSM is not specifically a sexual fetish,contrary to what pop culture magazine articles might have you think It’s erotic behavior, or kink. BDSM is mistaken for a fetish because items and objects that are used in BDSM can be fetishized.” A fetish is actually defined as sexual excitement and gratification from a specific thing in lieu of intercourse (Wikipedia, 2015).
Myth #4: Men are Dominant, Women are Submissive
Women are just as likely as men to enjoy being in charge and in control. Women can be dominant and men can be submissive or vice versa—and you don’t have to choose just one role either.
Myth #5: BDSM is Dangerous
Not when done correctly. Conversations about consent and safety are the norm in the BDSM comminuty, not the exception. Very often safe words are used in SM roleplay.
MYTHS BUSTED!