I knew deep down this was going to be a long and fruitful relationship . It also paralleled the girlfriend from college that turned into my wife . I had no idea what I was getting into but it was going to be a long lasting relationship . I knew it would be wonderful but it was so much more . I have to go back and write about college once again where I met my wife and where my artistic ideas were born . In college I was obsessed with capturing time and making marks with confident brushstrokes , basically anything that could say , " I was here ." I ' m sure it was the result of my sister ’ s death in a car accident my freshman year . I didn ' t have the cash nor the time to spend in therapy , so I painted . I found solace in Duchamp ' s trust of chance along with his espousal of spontaneity . I found joy in the way Rauschenberg and John Cage made performances and time tangible . This is what first led me to wax , a liquid that through the confidence of eye and hand coordination would create an instantaneous mark that would dry immediately with the chance of a drip . It could all be found in this medium . In this part of the relationship it was all about the medium and the medium was the message . Yes , I met my wife at college too , and I was as obsessed with courting her . I had no other means to express my affection so I painted her very own jean jacket . There are many things that come full circle in life .