By One Tough Muther
Dear OTM,
My question is about vacationing alone. My kids are at an age where they are self sufficient and don’t need me every second. They are 16 & 18 years old. I have cared for my families needs always but I am at a point in my life where I think it’s ok to do some things for myself. One of them is take a leisure vacation alone. Without my children or my husband. I am talking about a real vacation too not just a day trip. My husband does not enjoy a lot of the things that I do so therefore I haven’t gotten to enjoy my interests much in my life. I love hiking, and would love to plan a trip hiking the Appalachian trail with some friends a few days worth or more. Is this wrong of me. I’m really stressing over this but my husband does not want to join me , so does that mean that i should not do it? My husband is not telling me to NOT go but he is being a sour puss and I am feeling guilty to leave my family. BUT otm i have never done anything for myself all these years. I’d like to hear your opinion.
Dear Lynn,
NOW is the time! You deserve to be a person with you own interests as much as your husband has the right to enjoy his interests.
It is kind of sad that you say your husband “does not enjoy a lot of things that I do” but that should not stop you from enjoying life, Babe you only have one, life.
Your children are grow and self sufficient, your husband will be home to supervise, he is their father and you should have nothing to worry about.
Lynn, for some reason when we become wives and mothers we seem to forget we are people too. You have put your family first all this time and now it is time for you. It is not wrong and there shouldn’t be anyone making you feel that it is. You need to pursue your own personal interest and feel alive as much as anyone else does.
Lynn remember this, everyday that passes is another day you will NEVER get back, it is gone. Time waits for no one and if hiking the Appalachian is something that you would really love to do then do it. You will be a happier person, wife and mother because you will be doing something for Lynn this time.
Good Luck & Take Plenty of Pictures.
Hugs,
One Tough Muther