By Debra Oakland
When
Will
My
Life
Change?
This question comes up for everyone at some point. When will my life change, and why hasn’t it changed yet? I am a good person, a loyal friend, a loving parent. I work hard, I am honest, and on and on it goes. For some, year after year. Many of us think of the future as a place where our lives will look differently. We will have a new car, a new job, a new home, a new relationship with ourselves and others. But what about now? Now is where the answers, gifts and future outcomes lie. Right Now! Not yesterday, not tomorrow. Those are only thoughts.
Life can pass us by and we miss most of the important clues, the arrows along the way that point us in the right direction. Most people think they know what will make them truly happy. But when you ask them, it is usually something outside of themselves. Maybe if they have more possessions, they will finally be happy. Possessions are wonderful and we are welcome to all we want, including money and supply, beautiful homes, wonderful loving relationships, joy or anything you can add to the list.
I am sure you know people who have money and many beautiful or fun possessions, but who are miserable and lead very unhappy
lives. On the other hand, we all know people who seem to “have it all” and are happily leading productive, exciting, fulfilled lives.
When will it happen for you?
Do you think you have to
wait for a wonderful life?
Do you think it is random, that life deals
you a deck of cards and you take
what you were dealt?
Who taught you that?
There have been uncountable numbers of people in your life since you entered as a baby; they molded and shaped every part of you, they influenced the person you have become. Most of those people were doing the best they knew how, teaching you what they thought was right, giving you the love and nurturing they felt you needed to assist you in your growth as a fully developed adult.
We tend to teach from our perspective as we build our beliefs, behaviors, habits and knowledge of the world around us, then pass it on to others. Throw in fear, judgment, labels, blame, criticism and confusion, along with all the love, care, protection, information, peace and happiness, and there is a level of confusion that grows into a large tree of positive and negative beliefs within us. This tree can have very deep roots, and it may be extremely difficult to pull up and out so we can replant new seeds.