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It is important to realize that mediators are not judges or arbitrators. This means they are not
allowed to make decisions concerning which party will “win” or “lose.” Mediators simply guide
divorcing spouses through negotiations. The mediator will guide the dialogue between the
divorcing spouses and addressing negotiation pitfalls that will make the divorce process longer
and more tedious.
While many people have reported going through divorce mediation successfully, it is usually best
not to seek mediation during the initial stages of divorce. The mediation will only be effective if
both parties are reasonable enough to negotiate a divorce settlement. When a couple first
decides to divorce, one or both parties may be too emotional or angry to mediate. In many
instances, this is because divorces often occur because one party wants to divorce and the other
does not, which can lead to additional conflicts that can make mediation difficult.