eCREATIVE MAGAZINE JANUARY 2016 | Page 34

eCREATIVE & D by Barbara Mitchell ecatur, GA resident Tamara Beachum has a Bachelor’s degree in Sociology with a concentration in Psychology. She worked in the Human Resources field for more than twenty years with much of that time spent coaching employees on everything from career goals to job loss to the death of a loved one. In 2012, she became a Certified Creative Grief Support Practitioner and today, in addition to managing her own practice in the metropolitan Atlanta area, she teaches hospice workers, pastors, grief coaches, and others through the Creative Grief Studio. Tamara is no stranger to grief. In a 36-month period she lost her father to cancer, was laid off from a job she loved, and her husband was diagnosed with cancer. “I weighed less than my 15-year-old. My hair fell out. A simple conversation with my husband involved the external dialog and a running internal scream of “How am I going to live without this man?!” Swiss-American psychiatrist, Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross first introduced the five stages of dying - denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance - in her 1969 groundbreaking book, On Death and Dying. It was assumed that this also applied to grief but today more current research shows that our reaction to loss does not happen in the same way for survivors as it does for the dying. We also have a natural resilience not examined in this theory. Tamara Beachum talked with eCREATIVE about her steps in a journey that today helps others find resilience and meaning after the death of their life partners and other losses.